Our lives are defined by turning points in our lives. Some moments fly by while others seem to drag on forever. We are often impatient, and we are waiting for those “big success” moments of life, and we often miss the small moments that carve our path in life and lead us to a variety of achievements.
As a business owner in the network marketing industry, it is important to do two things:
- Define those turning points or what we call “watershed moments” and list all that you learned from those moments, both the successes and the failures. This exercise will require that you dedicate time on a daily basis to doing everything you can to remember the turning points in your life and the lessons, both good and bad, you learned.
- Once you have defined your watershed moments, do your best to look at the blind spots of those turning points in your life and what you learned from the hiccups during those stages of life that pulled you off your path. We all have blind spots, and it is often hindsight that shines a light on the actions we took that caused failure or defeat This exercise is something you should be dedicated to doing at least two times per year. This will help you tremendously as you learn what is not working so that you can move in the direction of success.
There are three steps to take when defining and learning from the watershed moments of your life.
Step 1: Define the turning points or watershed moments of your life. Examples may include:
- Your first day of kindergarten
- Graduating from high school
- Falling in love for the first time
- Entering the work force
- Building a family
- Hardships in life or business
- Memorable vacations
Step 2: Define the positive things you experienced during the watershed moments of your life. Examples may include:
- College: Learning to live alone, living on a budget, meeting lifelong friends and choosing your major for your first career
- Entering the work force: Training, reading the employee manual, being asked to do a job you were not hired to do and climbing the corporate ladder
- Building a family: Raising your first child and feeling stressed, paying bills for children, making decisions about school for your children and going through the terrible 2s and the raging teens
- Memorable vacations: Learning something you never knew you didn’t know, seeing a breathtaking view, enjoying new foods you have never eaten and meeting new people along the way.
Step 3: Journal about the blind spots of your watershed moments. As I mentioned previously, these are the things that you learned from mistakes and failures. Examples may include:
- Difficulties in making friends during kindergarten related to a shy demeanor
- Hanging out with the wrong crowd in high school
- Graduating from college with a low GPA because you chose to party your way through college
- Losing the first romantic relationship in your life, because you did not appreciate and respect your partner
- Your marriage ended in divorce, because you simply would not communicate with your spouse
- Your career stalled, because you did not take the steps needed to advance in your career
- Poor relationships with your children, because you chose to work over being there for their important milestones (birthdays, sporting events, holidays or college graduation)
- Making the same mistakes over and over again, because you continued to do the same things over and over again without learning from your mistakes
This process should not end with identifying your past watershed moments. You will need to do a great bit of soul searching on a daily basis to Identify both the successes and failures in life. Identifying the success points in life can be easy. Defining the blind spots is a much more difficult task, because you cannot observe yourself living your life. Only others can see what you are doing to create success and what you are missing that may cause failure. To help you begin to identify and work to change your blind spots, start by doing all that you can to identify your own goals and intentions and how you want to be perceived by others. It is critical to understand that people will perceive you according to their own goals, intentions, desires and values. Once you have identified your goals and intentions, ask yourself these four important questions to reveal your blind spots:
- How would you like to be perceived by others? What do you want your reputation to be in the network marketing world?
- What is your actual reputation in the network marketing field? The best way to answer this question is to talk to friends and colleagues and ask for candid feedback about how you are being perceived.
- What is the gap between how you want to be perceived and how you are actually being perceived? Once you clearly identify the gap, make a list of the action steps you need to take to shift so that your desired perception becomes the perceived perception in the network marketing field.
- What skills do you need to develop to be successful in the current field of network marketing? You may have worked for years on developing a list of strong leadership skills that have worked for you in the past. The world is changing swiftly—from your customers’ needs to the technology you use and the products and services your competition is offering. It is important to embrace change and develop the skills you need to build so that you are relevant and credible in the business world today.
By identifying your watershed moments in your life, you will learn to appreciate the small action steps that helped you achieve success and those actions that led to failure. As I have said many times, we gain experience by making mistakes and using those to turn decisions into moments of true success.